Although we have lived here before and we have some experience with the culture and customs, it seems every day there is some new cultural lesson to be learned. Often it is simple and funny. Other times it is complex and sad. There have been a few funny ones happen since we got here.
When Tab first started working, she went around greeting people. One of the people that she came to greet did not 'recognize her shape'. Apparently, she is bigger than she used to be. I spent the first couple weeks here, sick with various things. I lost about 15 lbs. Someone remarked to me that I have shrunk to my familiar size. Yeah, I get it, we are getting older and bigger.
One morning one of the ladies that helps keep our house clean, told me about how her daughter-in-law had a pain in her stomach. I didn't really think that much of it. Later on that morning she started a story about a trip she took to a local village that eventually involved her daughter-in-law having more stomach pain. I did suggest that we pray for her and so we did. She mentioned in her prayer that Tab would help her. I was a little confused. Slowly I began to realize that she was sick enough to see a doctor and was in fact scheduled for an operation that morning. Tab was to be her surgeon. I think there was an assumption that I already knew all about it. However, out of a respect for privacy and habit, my wife never actually tells me anything specific about any patient, here, or at home. So, unless you tell me about the surgery that Tab has done to you or your friend or family, I will have no idea that it has happened. Anyway, she kept bringing it up because she was hoping that I would give her some time off to go take care of her grandson while his mother was in surgery and father was at work. I didn't really put all this together until she called her son, who speaks perfect English, to ask me if she could have the rest of the day off. Of course I agreed, and I would have happily given her the whole day off if I had realized at the time that she was indirectly asking for fear of insulting me or being rejected. Tab said the surgery was a success and she should make a full recovery.